{"id":84208,"date":"2023-11-15T04:15:39","date_gmt":"2023-11-15T04:15:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happylifestyleinc.com\/?p=84208"},"modified":"2023-11-15T04:15:39","modified_gmt":"2023-11-15T04:15:39","slug":"my-partner-deserted-us-but-my-kids-are-pushing-me-away-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happylifestyleinc.com\/lifestyle\/my-partner-deserted-us-but-my-kids-are-pushing-me-away-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"My partner deserted us, but my kids are pushing me away | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"

DEAR DEIDRE: My partner left me and our four children four months ago. <\/p>\n

He just packed his stuff and went, without giving a reason.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m 43 and he\u2019s 48. A month later I discovered that he\u2019d been having an affair with a family friend.<\/p>\n

It has left me devastated. I feel upset, confused, betrayed and so alone.<\/p>\n

Our children\u2019s world has been rocked and the two eldest refused to talk to him.<\/p>\n

Although I was hurt, I encouraged them to keep him in their life and to continue to talk to him, as he is still their dad.<\/p>\n

Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team<\/h3>\n

Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.<\/p>\n

Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you.<\/p>\n

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.<\/p>\n

One of them is now speaking to their dad, but they are hardly talking to me.<\/p>\n

This is really painful. All I want is to be close to all my children and to be able to look after them through this difficult time.<\/p>\n

Instead, I feel I am being pushed further away.<\/p>\n

I encouraged them to build bridges, but now feel I am being punished for it.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve tried getting counselling for myself and for the children, but this does not seem to be available where we live. <\/p>\n

MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE<\/h2>\n

<\/picture>DEIDRE'S STORIES <\/span><\/p>\n

Dalton accepts he may never get Stella back<\/h3>\n

<\/picture>WORK CRUSH <\/span><\/p>\n

I've fallen head over heels for a colleague 30 years younger<\/h3>\n

DEIDRE SAYS: You are doing the right thing by putting your children first and thinking of their well-being.<\/p>\n

It is true that it\u2019s healthier for children to have relationships with both parents, unless there is a safeguarding issue.<\/p>\n

While it may not feel like it now this will definitely help everyone in the long term. Your children are still trying to adjust to the new situation and may feel torn between the two of you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to cope with parents separating, which may explain why one of your children in particular has become withdrawn. My support pack When Parents Fall Out explains more.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not clear where you have tried to get counselling, but you can find family therapy support through relate.org.uk.<\/p>\n

You have also been badly let down and while it\u2019s selfless to look after your children, you do also need to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

I would also encourage you to talk to Families Need Fathers (fnf.org.uk). Don\u2019t be put off by the name \u2013 they are there to help mothers too.<\/p>\n

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