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<\/p>\nI want revenge. I have been dumped, hurt and \u00adhumiliated.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t understand why my ex-boyfriend doesn\u2019t love me any more. I look great. I\u2019m funny and popular. Yet he says he\u2019s fallen in love with someone else \u2013 someone who isn\u2019t half as attractive or sexy as I am. What\u2019s going on?<\/p>\n
His head is in the clouds, he maintains they\u2019ve connected on a spiritual level and that she gets and understands him in a way that I never will. He apologises for breaking my heart but swears that they didn\u2019t have sex \u2013 or even kiss \u2013 until he and I split two weeks ago.<\/p>\n
READ MORE:<\/b> 'My fella bonked my boss \u2014 he stank of her after they spent six hours humping in hotel'<\/b> <\/p>\n
You can check out more relationship and sex advice from Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman here.<\/b><\/p>\n
Now I suspect they\u2019re shagging for Britain and that makes me very, very angry. What am I supposed to do now? I\u2019m so tempted to go round to his place, catch them in bed and pour slop over their heads.<\/p>\n
Either that or stick pins in his condoms or put chilli powder in his underwear drawer. He doesn\u2019t realise I\u2019ve still got a key to his place. I\u2019m spending hours plotting their downfall.<\/p>\n
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My replacement is loud, overblown and tacky. They hooked up at a party while I was laid low with flu. So not only did she steal my man from under my nose, but she also leapt in when I was at my weakest.<\/p>\n
Now I see them walking around our small town, arm-in-arm, and I\u2019m fuming. I can\u2019t work out what he sees in her, yet he\u2019s told mutual friends he\u2019s determined to spend the rest of his life in her flabby arms.<\/p>\n
The same friends are telling me he\u2019s not worth fighting over, but I\u2019m not someone who likes to be beaten. What\u2019s so wrong with a little retribution between ex-lovers?<\/p>\n
JANE SAYS: At the moment your pride is wounded. You\u2019re feeling hurt, lost and abandoned, but you have to let your ex-boyfriend go and move on with your life.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
At the moment you can\u2019t work out what your ex sees in this other woman, and you feel insulted. You want
answers and explanations, but there are none. <\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
He\u2019s loved up and high on emotion and looking forward. Force yourself to be strong and don\u2019t do anything stupid or you really will find yourself in trouble.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
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Tell him you\u2019ve still got his spare key and ask him what he wants you to do with it. Should you put it in an envelope and post it through his letter box or what?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
If it\u2019s true that he believes he\u2019s found his soul mate, then you can\u2019t compete or change who you are. <\/i><\/b>Accept that he\u2019s a different person now \u2013 he is on a different path and happy with his new partner.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
The idea of revenge as a \u201cdish best served cold\u201d may be a delicious one as far as you\u2019re concerned, but I urge you in the strongest possible terms not to go there. <\/i><\/b>Instead, concentrate on your exciting next chapter.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n