{"id":82674,"date":"2023-09-06T11:39:50","date_gmt":"2023-09-06T11:39:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happylifestyleinc.com\/?p=82674"},"modified":"2023-09-06T11:39:50","modified_gmt":"2023-09-06T11:39:50","slug":"why-its-time-to-rip-up-your-sexual-script","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happylifestyleinc.com\/lifestyle\/why-its-time-to-rip-up-your-sexual-script\/","title":{"rendered":"Why it's time to rip up your sexual script"},"content":{"rendered":"

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2023 is the year to rip up your sexual script and abandon ideas about what is normal, according to Ruby Rare, author, sex educator and co-star of new Channel 4 show Sex Rated.<\/p>\n

Ruby has outlined her top tips to help people with their sexual debut on metro.co.uk\u2019s Smutdrop podcast, arguing that the phrase \u2018losing your virginity\u2019 is outdated because the experience is more about gain.<\/p>\n

She tells host Miranda Kane: \u2018I don\u2019t really like the idea of losing your virginity. Because \u2013 where does it go? What happened? It doesn\u2019t mean anything. To me, experiencing sexual pleasure and sexual intimacy is about gaining experience and knowledge.\u2019<\/p>\n

Her advice for people making their sexual debut is to go at your own pace and try to dismiss the idea of what may or may not be normal.<\/p>\n

\u2018The typical way that we see virginity is a man and a woman having sex, which involves a penis going into a vagina. For lots of people, that isn\u2019t the sex that is going to appeal to them, maybe because of sexuality, but also because of pleasure,\u2019 explains Ruby.<\/p>\n

\u2018We know that for the vast majority of women, penis and vagina sex isn\u2019t the most pleasurable because it actually doesn\u2019t stimulate the clitoris as much as loads of other wonderful, sexy things.\u2019<\/p>\n