The only trouble is I am married to her daughter. I am 39 and my wife is 35. We’ve been married for three years and have no children as she says she doesn’t want them.
Most of the time I work away from home. I am an engineer, which pays well, and can afford for my wife not to work.
We have a large, comfortable house, she has a great social life but I have always had sneaking concerns about what she gets up to when I’m away.
I am working on a project in Dubai at the moment and a few weeks ago her mother turned up there, saying she was on holiday but had some things to tell me about my wife.
She would not reveal more at first but suggested we have a meal out together. That night and over the next couple of days she told me in great detail about my wife’s antics, some of which were pretty shocking.
She said she was into swinging and one-night stands. I was stunned and felt so betrayed. I broke down and cried my eyes out and she comforted me.
A friend of my wife’s and her husband were in Dubai the next weekend.
When I told them, I could see by the expression on their faces that they knew already.
They said they had kept her behaviour from me, thinking it for the best.
My mother-in-law stayed in touch pretty much every day to see how I was doing.
She is probably one of the most stunning women I have ever met, despite being 53.
I have always had a strong attraction for her and her for me.
She asked to come and see me again. I agreed and we spent the night in bed.
We have been seeing one another ever since and are in love.
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I am not completely stupid, and know she used my wife’s antics to break up my marriage.
But I can forgive her because of how I feel about her.
We want to spend Christmas as a couple but how do I tell my wife about our relationship?
DEIDRE SAYS: Her news left you emotionally vulnerable and she took full advantage.
She is not the motherly sort, is she?
It seems a calculated ploy to undermine her daughter’s relationship rather than support you and her daughter during a dilemma in your marriage.
I wonder if it’s having a mother like that which has put your wife off having children of her own.
Beware terminally damaging your marriage, only to discover her main aim was to wound her daughter.
Start by telling your wife what you’ve heard. Sort the truth from the rumours over her behaviour.
Then decide whether it is possible to get through this crisis or face the break-up of your marriage.
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