DEAR DEIDRE: MY sister refuses to have any relationship with me since I called her an alcoholic.
She drinks up to three bottles of wine a night. It all started when her husband left four years ago. She began to have a glass after work to relax. She’s 38, I’m her 47-year-old brother.
One glass turned into a bottle, and a bottle quickly turned into three. It was impossible to talk to her about her drinking – she’d either change the conversation or hang up the phone.
So in January I wrote her a letter. I thought it was time she accepted the truth. But she flew off the handle, writing me a scathing letter back that said I had assassinated her character.
She ended it with, “Have a good life”. Now she won’t answer my calls, and refuses to open the door if I turn up at her house.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Her reaction is likely to be a sign that she knows you’re right. But you can’t force her to look for help.
She may have felt bombarded by that letter, and by you turning up at her house uninvited.
Seek help from Stand Alone (www.standalone.org.uk), who run support groups for those estranged from their family members.
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