I walked in on my girlfriend and her best friend having lesbian sex in my bed

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my girlfriend made a good friend at work I was happy . . . until I realised they were sleeping together.

I found out when I walked in on the two of them in our bed. Apparently, it has been going on for months.

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I am 32, my girlfriend is 27 and we have been dating for almost three years.

Last year, she decided it was time for a fresh start, so quit her job as a midwife and retrained as a doula.

During her training, she bonded with another girl, Megan. The two of them grew really close. It was nice to see her making new friends as she had struggled with catty women in her last job.

I have to travel every two or three weeks for work, and my girlfriend hates staying in the house by herself.

Normally her sister would come to stay, but in October, she asked if I would mind Megan coming instead.

I had no issue with it — I thought the sleepover would involve a few bottles of wine and a romcom marathon. When I returned a few days later, my girlfriend was glowing.

Then last month, my trip was cut short so I headed home a day early. I thought it would be a nice ­surprise.

When I entered the house, I could hear giggling upstairs. I didn’t think anything of it, but as I walked into the bedroom, I saw my girlfriend giving Megan oral sex.

Before my girlfriend could say anything, I left the room and went straight out the front door.

When I came back a few days later, my girlfriend tried to claim it was a one-off.

But there were candles lit and sexy lingerie on the floor — hardly signs of a spontaneous afternoon!

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She never told me she was bisexual, so this was a complete shock.

She has begged me to give her another chance, but I’m not sure I can. I can’t get the image of the two of them out of my head.

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DEIDRE SAYS:  Any infidelity takes time to come to terms with – whether it’s with a male or female.

It is possible to strengthen a relationship after one partner has cheated but you both have to be ready to work really hard at rebuilding the trust.

Only you can decide if you want this.

And your girlfriend needs to consider whether there is a side to her sexuality she still needs to explore.

My support pack Bisexual Questions may help her.

The best place to start would be with some relationship counselling. For help, reach out to Tavistock Relationships (tavistockrelationships.org).

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