British mother accused of 'appropriating' Pakistani culture

British woman, 24, who’s married to a Pakistani man and been a Muslim for nearly a decade hits back at trolls who accused her of ‘appropriating’ her husband’s culture on TikTok

  • Amber Bain, 24, shared clips of herself dressed in traditional Pakistani garments
  • Lancashire mother was trolled for videos and accused of ‘cultural appropriation’
  • However, the student said she is simply embracing her husband’s culture 

A British woman who’s married to a Pakistani man and been a Muslim for nearly a decade has hit back at trolls who accused her of ‘appropriating’ her husband’s culture on TikTok.

Amber Bain, 24, from Nelson, Lancashire, faced backlash for sharing videos of herself dressed in traditional Pakistani garments while dancing on the popular social media platform and has even had abuse in the street.

However, the Community Leadership student said she is simply embracing her husband’s culture and is ‘appreciating’ it rather than ‘appropriating’ it.

Frustrated Amber decided to hit back with a defiant TikTok clip of her walking down her stairs in a black hoodie and leggings before suddenly transforming into a floral shalwar kameez, a traditional South Asian ensemble. 

The clip, which included the caption ‘stop repping a culture that’s not yours’, quickly went viral, racking up more than one million views and more than 85,000 reactions.

Amber Bain (pictured), 24, from Nelson, Lancashire, faced backlash for sharing videos of herself dressed in traditional Pakistani garments while dancing on the popular social media platform and has even had abuse in the street


Frustrated Amber decided to hit back with a defiant TikTok clip (pictured) of her walking down her stairs in a black hoodie and leggings before suddenly transforming into a floral shalwar kameez, a traditional South Asian ensemble

Amber said: ‘I don’t know why people have felt the need to be so negative. Maybe they’re just uneducated. 

‘My community is really open and multicultural. Everybody embraces each other and we all come together. We’re so open – people will knock on your door with food and welcome you into their homes for celebrations.

‘Obviously, this might not be the case in other towns. It seems like people don’t like to see you doing anything different.

‘Most of the negative comments I was receiving were coming from white people. They were writing silly comments to me like “Why have you converted to that religion?”‘

She added: ‘I’ve had to delete quite a few comments, as people have just been using the video as an excuse to have arguments.


The clip, which included the caption ‘stop repping a culture that’s not yours’, quickly went viral, racking up more than one million views and more than 85,000 reactions. Pictured, Amber

The Community Leadership student (pictured) said she is simply embracing her husband’s culture and is ‘appreciating’ it rather than ‘appropriating’ it

‘I did expect people to comment on my wallpaper – I’m still in the process of getting a new wallpaper for my stairs. But I didn’t expect to get so much hate. The love outweighs the hate, but it’s still not nice.

‘I’m a strong person but some of the comments were enough to make somebody suicidal. It just goes to show that if you post something online, you should expect the worst – especially on TikTok.’

Amber, who is married to a Pakistani man with whom she has three children, has even received abuse in the street because of her choice of clothing.

Amber said: ‘I’ve been walking out in town and passed pubs, and people are like “What are you wearing? You’re a disgrace”.


Amber (pictured in the clip), who is married to a Pakistani man with whom she has three children, has even received abuse in the street because of her choice of clothing

For Amber (pictured), who converted to Islam when she was 15 years old, wearing Pakistani clothing is like ‘second nature’

‘I just walk on when that happens, but I obviously get upset. Most of the time when that’s happened, I’ve been out with my children.

‘I just think some people don’t like to see different cultures mixing. Some people think all that stuff is over but it’s not. Hate crimes are still happening all the time.’

For Amber, who converted to Islam when she was 15 years old, wearing Pakistani clothing is like ‘second nature’.

Amber said: ‘Since I got married, it’s been the norm for me. When I got married, my parents-in-law gifted me with Asian-wear clothes.

‘I’d wear it, and I didn’t see anything bad in that, but I’d have people saying to me “Why are you wearing that? You’re not an Asian girl.”

Amber (pictured) said: ‘Since I got married, it’s been the norm for me. When I got married, my parents-in-law gifted me with Asian-wear clothes.’


Amber (pictured) added: ‘I’m not appropriating another culture, I’m appreciating it. But online that doesn’t seem to count for anything’

She added: ‘I’m not appropriating another culture, I’m appreciating it. But online that doesn’t seem to count for anything. People are so quick to judge, I’ve had people commenting that I’ve been brainwashed.

‘People were saying to me “Why are you forcing your children into a religion?” and really bad stuff like that.’

Besides the hate comments, Amber also received a lot of supportive remarks that praised her.

Amber said: ‘I had some people saying “We love our cultured queen”, because they’ve seen that I’ve been trying to respect the culture in my other videos too.

Reaction: Besides the hate comments, Amber also received a lot of supportive remarks that praised her

But other TikTok users (above) were less impressed by the video, with one person writing: ‘Cultural appropriation love.’

‘I even had a comment from one girl who said “I’m a Pakistani girl, and you’re appreciating this culture just fine”.  They were complimenting my clothes which was really nice to read as well.

‘I’ve been a little put off posting on TikTok though. I know for sure I have to get my stairs done now,’ she jokingly added. 

Some TikTok users took to the comments section to compliment Amber, with one writing: ‘Leave her, she’s just appreciating the culture. You look pretty anyways.’

Another commented: ‘People forget culture is holistic. Within our own lives, we create a different culture for ourselves. Keep spreading love of cultural dress wear.’

A third said: ‘Leave her alone, nothing wrong with it. What’s wrong with everyone, she looks stunning and is happy. Don’t judge, be kind.’ 

But other TikTok users were less impressed by the video, with one person writing: ‘Cultural appropriation love.’ 

Source: Read Full Article